even MS didn't stop the Support for W2003 Server til today..
We have been forced to switch from Domino 8.5 to 9 due to Traveler "features", but we still using W2003 64bit.
Til now we didn't experienced any problems with our systems except one issue with daylight saving time and Traveler.
As we do not use Sametime, i can't tell anything about that.
Hope, this helps.
Simon